The success of love is in the loving; it is not in the result of loving. Of course it is natural in love to want the best for the other person, but whether it turns out that way or not does not determine the value of what we have done. Mother Teresa
Therapeutic attachment parenting is critical to the childs healing process therefore parent education and training are a significant component of attachment therapy.
It is very important that parents of children with attachment disorder understand normal parenting techniques only work with children who have an emotionally secure base with the parent/s, appropriate cognitive and neurological development and a healthy belief system. Therefore parents need to be able to change their beliefs about parenting and discipline and their expectations of the child and the child/parent relationship in order to provide effective therapeutic attachment parenting.
A child with an insecure attachment or no attachment needs to be re-parented using techniques that focus on changing the childs belief system and meeting the childs cognitive, emotional and developmental needs while managing behaviors that undermine these goals. Parents must become the emotional safe base in order for the child to effectively work on trauma and loss issues.Attuned parenting includes understanding the childs beliefs and needs, the motivation behind behaviors, the childs emotional and cognitive abilities and providing interventions and interactions that consistently meet the childs needs and assist in changing the belief system. Attachment activities incorporate eye contact, touch, sound, taste, smell and nurturing experiences for both the parent and child. Less talk and more action is a good rule of thumb in this form of parenting.