Attachment Center of Kansas

Helping Families Build Stronger Connections

“The success of love is in the loving; it is not in the result of loving. Of course it is natural in love to want the best for the other person, but whether it turns out that way or not does not determine the value of what we have done”.  Mother Teresa

Therapeutic Attachment Parenting

Therapeutic attachment parenting is critical to the child’s healing process therefore parent education and training are a significant component of attachment therapy.

It is very important that parents of children with attachment disorder understand “normal” parenting techniques only work with children who have an emotionally secure base with the parent/s, appropriate cognitive and neurological development and a healthy belief system.  Therefore parents need to be able to change their beliefs about parenting and discipline and their expectations of the child and the child/parent relationship in order to provide effective therapeutic attachment parenting. 

A child with an insecure attachment or no attachment needs to be re-parented using techniques that focus on changing the child’s belief system and meeting the child’s cognitive, emotional and developmental needs while managing behaviors that undermine these goals.  Parents must become the emotional safe base in order for the child to effectively work on trauma and loss issues.

Attuned parenting includes understanding the child’s beliefs and needs, the motivation behind behaviors, the child’s emotional and cognitive abilities and providing interventions and interactions that consistently meet the child’s needs and assist in changing the belief system.  Attachment activities incorporate eye contact, touch, sound, taste, smell and nurturing experiences for both the parent and child.  Less talk and more action is a good rule of thumb in this form of parenting.

Links on Attachment Problems in Children

Bonding and Attachment in Maltreated Children

Understanding Reactive Attachment Disorder

Reactive Attachment Disorder Checklist

Healing in an Attachment Disordered Child

Siblings living with RAD

The Child’s Point of View

Our Journey

Nancy Thomas

Deborah Hage

Attachment Disorder Maryland

Links on Infant Adoption and Attachment

Links on Adult Attachment

Online Presentations

Bonding and Attachment in Maltreated Children

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