Attachment Center of Kansas

According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, almost a quarter of a million children are abused and/or neglected each year.  Children from birth to age 3 are at the highest risk of maltreatment followed by children between the ages of 4 and 7.  Half of these children were abused or neglected again within a 5-year period.  40% are abused by their mother, 18% by their father and 17% by both parents.  The Third National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect reports that three times as many children are maltreated as are reported to Child Protective Service agencies.Child

“Insecure attachments become psychiatric disorders when emotions and behaviors displayed in attachment relationships are so disturbed as to indicate, or substantially increase the risk for, persistent distress or disability. An attachment disorder, thus, represents behavior at the most extreme ends of attachment relationships, reflecting serious distortions in the child's use of the caregiver as a secure base.”

The success of love is in the loving - it is not in the result of loving.  Of course it is natural in love to want the best for the other person, but whether it turns out that way or not does not determine the value of what we have done.