neuroscientist Bruce Perry, MD, PhD up to 40% of American children fail
to form secure attachments with their mother or primary caregiver.
Poor attachment is associated with a host of emotional and
behavioral problems during childhood and later in life. Children who
are securely attached to a parent do better cognitively, socially,
and-in due course-academically and economically. Perry presents evidence that proper
growth of the cognitive and emotional potentials of the developing
brain requires stable emotional attachment with primary adult
caregivers at the critical time.
The attachment process begins during the pregnancy and continues
throughout childhood and adolescence. There are three areas that
need to be addressed in order for secure attachment to develop.
Parent’s emotional health. Research shows that parents who
abuse substances, struggle with depression, are abused by their partner
and/or have children in their teenage years are at high risk of abusing
and/or neglecting their children. Research has also shown that
children with special needs are also at higher risk of being abused
and/or neglected by a parent. You can not give to your child what
you do not have so for your child’s sake as well as your own, take care
of your own emotional health.
Love and Logic Parenting
Zero to Three
Bonding With Your Child
Consequences That Encourage Change
Tools for Raising Responsible Children
ABC’s Fun and Parenting At Risk Kids
Foster and Adoptive Parenting
Approximately 542,000 children were in the foster care system in the United States as of September 30, 2001.
48 percent were in foster family homes (non-relative), 24 percent were
in relative foster homes, 18 percent were in group homes or
institutions, 4 percent were in pre-adoptive homes, and 6 percent were
in other placement types. 28% of these children were age 5 or younger.
Of the 6,190 children in foster care in 2002, 2,082 were
waiting to be adopted in Kansas. Of the 471 children that were
adopted, 46% were age 5 or younger and 31% were between ages 6 and
10. Over 60% of these children were adopted by their foster
family and 13% by a non-relative.
child entering a new foster or adoptive home is a hurting child with
some level of attachment problems. They have been
removed from family, friends, their school
and community. Almost everything they have or know has been left
have experienced domestic violence, maltreatment, alcohol and/or drug abuse,
neglect and dysfunctional family systems. They may
have inadequate relationship and coping skills, developmental
delays, a mental health disorder and poor cognitive development.
Grief and Loss in Adoptive Children
Adopting A Toddler-Aged Child
Kuddle Kids Korner
Attachment and Bonding Activities
Moms of Avoidant Infants and Toddlers
Foster Care and Adoption Community
Adoption Policy Resource Center
Resources to Help Defray Adoption Costs
Family Medical Leave Act